vercoming Envy & Jealousy | Hypnotherapy Brighton, Hove & Lewes
The word jealousy has become wrapped up so much with envy that we seem to have lost the ability to make a clear distinction. Jealousy is where you have feel that you possess a valued relationship, but were in danger of losing it, or at least having it changed in an undesirable way. With envy you do not possess the valued commodity or way of being in another, but wishes to possess it.
Common thoughts & feelings with Jealousy are:
- Fear of loss
- Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal
- Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss
- Uncertainty and loneliness
- Fear of losing an important person to another
Common thoughts & feelings with Envy are:
- Feelings of inferiority
- Resentment of circumstances
- Ill will towards the envied person perhaps with a sense of guilt
- Motivation to improve
- Desire to have the attractive rival's qualities
- Disapproval of feelings
Jealousy is an emotion which consists of negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over the anticipated loss of something or someone valued.
It is a powerful force that can hijack your emotional well being causing anger, anxiety, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. This can result behaviours that have a destructive impact on relationships such as obsessively checking things icluding Facebook, or someones phone. You may find frequent circular conversations that continue to end in frustration for both parties.
Some people try to hide jealousy inside but find that it bubbles under the surface and sometimes comes out in certain avoidant or reactive behaviours.
In order to be jealous you will usually projected a predicted future scenario in your mind, which is probably coupled with intense emotional states and seems completely real.
Learning how to differentiate the "prediction" from the reality of the situation is always going to be useful and will require gaining awareness. It's also worthy of acknowledging the grain of truth that might be present in the jealousy and how to respond to that in a way which enhances the relationship.
If you choose to work with me, we will address the beliefs that trigger jealousy, such as "I'm not good enough", "that person is better than me", "my partner wants to be with someone else" and looking at how comparisons of the best of another to the worst of myself have an impact.
If you've been struggling with jealousy, don't keep going back to the old patterns, hoping it will just go away, give me a call on 07949 989986 for afree 30 minute consultation, or drop me an email on firstname.lastname@example.org
Go to my Hypnosis Downloads page for an Jealousy related downloads that you can purchase if you wish.
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